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Anonymous: I have been having problems with this boy. I asked him to tolo and things were good he finally admitted that he liked me and I told him I liked him. Well he hasn't had much experience with girls. So he was obviously very rattled by the whole situation. Well now we don't talk and he barely even looks at me. I like him so much and idk what to do. I know he is shy but still completely ignoring me? :(

he may not be ignoring you, you know he is shy so he might not know how to approach you now he knows you like him, and may feel a little embarrassed now you know he likes you too! I think you’re going to have to make the first move, try popping up to him on facebook or say hi to him if you walk past- if he seems uncomfortable with you doing this, maybe you should try to forget about him, but if he doesn’t mind, keep talking to him :)

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Anonymous: I REALLY want to meet some new people, but my friends don't really have many parties, so I don't get the opportunity to talk to anybody outside my friendship group; and as i'm really shy, I can't really go up to random people and start a conversation. What can I do?

well i’m afraid that if you’re too shy to go and talk to people, you’ll have to rely on other people coming up to you-

why do you think you’re so shy?

ask yourself, what’s the worst that can happen if you talk to someone you don’t know? maybe that you don’t really like each other, and if you don’t then you haven’t lost anything either?

if you find the courage to go and talk to someone, you may be about to make a new friend, then you’ll realise that there was no need to be shy around them in the first place

where can you talk to new people….

umm, if someone from your friendship group is talking to someone you don’t know, go and stand with them?

join a club, a sports club or something else you enjoy doing- that way there’ll be lots of things you can talk about in conversation too

you could EVEN try to make some tumblr friends that live near you or something, i don’t knowww…

that’s all my ideas, good luck!

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Anonymous: I'm the anon about the guy in my class. Um, I don't know what to say to him cause I think if I just start talking to him it might be a bit weird. He's friends with some people that I hang around with but I don't really talk to him that often. How do I start conversation without seeming weird?

well if he’s in your classes, you could start a conversation with:

asking to borrow a pencil or something
question about the work

or if he’s in a conversation with someone else and you have something to say, just say it!

if he’s standing with some/one of the people you hand around with, go up and stand with them

that’s all of my ideas sorry :(

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Anonymous: There's this guy in some of my classes who looks at me a lot. Like I will turn and see him looking at me and then just turn away. He's done it for a while now. I hardly ever speak to him but he seems like a really nice guy but I'm useless when it comes to speaking to people and I think he's quite shy too. I think he shows off a bit too and then looks at me to see if I've noticed. Do you think he likes me or is it just me overthinking things as usual? :c

oooh, well from what you said i think he probably likes you, or just finds you attractive or something, maybe you should try speaking to him and see what he’s like?

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Anonymous: but I kinda dont want her to know at the same time :/ I dont want things to be awkward between me and her girlfriend(not that we talk anyway) but I hate how she gives me dirty looks around school :( I really dont know what to do because I really really like her, she is my first proper girl crush since I have known I am bi but I dont want to lose the friendship that we already have :( xxx

even though you really like her, she’s giving you dirty looks, and even though it is your first girl crush, there’ll be more and there’s no need to rush into anything

is it worth chasing after someone who doesnt like you?

they’re leaving in may so there may be no point trying to get into a relationship..

if you really think you might lose their friendship, do you think it is worth risking it?

..afterall, relationships never last, whereas friendships last longer

sorry, this is a rubbish answer i don’t really know what to say, but good luck, and think it through before you make a move or anything xxx

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Anonymous: I meesaged you a while back about the girl I like. I am more open about my sexuality now, the girl knows, my best friend knows and one other close friend knows. I know for definite that she is already in a relationship and by the looks she has been giving me, I think she is jealous that I am spending so much time with her girlfriend. They are both leaving school in May as they are the year above me, I doubt anything will happen between us.. and I kinda want her to know(continued)

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Anonymous: Hey did you get my question? Sorry if I sound impatient I was just wondering if it sent properly!

i’ve answered all my asks so if i haven’t answered it, send it again!

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Anonymous: hi! i'm 17 and a junior and i know this might sounds pathetic but there's this guy that i like and that likes me back. I don't know why as we've only been on chat (at least 3 hours a day for the past three weeks) and we don't speak at school. There's this huge gap between us on chat and us in real life. I get too nervous to talk to him normally and can't manage to say anything, I just don't know what to talk about. Any advice/ conversation topics?

aw, that’s cute!

i’m sorry but i’m really bad at convo topics D:

just start by saying hi, and the usual “you ok?” stuff then, i don’t know… comment on something he’s wearing or something he’s doing or something you’ve just done?

sorry, i’m realy bad at this :((((

but remember:

there are 2 of you so he will make conversation and not just you
silences in a conversation are okay!
if you talk to each other for at least 3 hours a day, you must be able to think of something, or maybe you could bring something up that was said over chat?
he’ll probably have something to say to you

and if you’re really nervous to actually have a conversation, when you go past him just smile and say hi and that’s that until you don’t feel as nervous to go and talk to him

good luck xxx

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Anonymous: I've asked you a question before about that new girl at the table? Well i'm not trying to like 'exclude' her or anything, she has bitched about most of the people on the table and we ended up finding out & she's started to make stuff up about me to make me look bad. I'm trying not to show my hate, but it's so very hard as whatever insulting word comes out of her mouth, it's always aimed at me. I've tried to be friends with her, but she just ignores me, so i have no choice but to do what i do now

ok, so you don’t like her, and that’s fine

but you can’t make your friends dislike her too- if everyone is finding out she’s saying stuff about your group then your group will realise she’s a waste of time too

just sit at the table, and enjoy talking to the people you do like xx

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Anonymous: My group of friends have had a new person join the table and I do really dislike her as she's very bitchy & has caused at least 3 arguments between the group in a short space of time. She's best friends with one of the girls who i used to be good friends with, but now she hardly speaks to me because of her. Most people on the table said they don't like her, but whilst I just ignore her, they're dead friendly and some have shown signs of hating me rather than her & i just don't know what to do

aw dear :(

here are a couple of things i think you should do:

don’t try to turn anyone in your group against the new girl, it’ll look bad on you
your friends might not mean it when they say they don’t like, they might be lying so they look friendlier when they’re talking to you
your view on your good friend might be unbalanced, are you sure that you’re not expecting her to do all the running after her? make sure you make efforts to talk to her- if you do all this and she’s not talking to you as much as you’d like, let her know how you feel
even though you don’t like her, try to tolerate her, and there’s nothing wrong with not talking to her, just make sure you don’t turn your friends against you

good luck xx

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Anonymous: heyy awkward sex question time! any tips for the first time you do it? i know it has to be right and with someone you're comfortable with but how can you be good at it? i just want to know some small things, like practical tips and stuff! told you this would be awkward ^_^'

if I’m completely honest, I really think you shouldn’t try to plan for it, or try to think of techniques or anything! Just go with it, ask him what he likes, do what you like- you’ll feel so much more comfortable this way than trying to think what you think you *should* be doing, and if you’re not feeling relaxed, it won’t go as well as it could!

good luck!

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Anonymous: hey you've spoke to me before, i was drifting with my best friend? erm i think things are going to be okayish. i mean,better for me. they're great for her and she's fine and happy so that's all good. we don't speak much anymore even if we're in a big group of people. i'm getting closer to the people she's good friends with and i've been out with them all a couple of times;do you think i'm doing the right thing? trying to keep close or shall i let her move on? thankyou xxxxx

well if you actually enjoy being with the people she’s close to then it’s fine. But if when you’re spending time with them, you know there are other people you’d rather be with then go and be with those people, i think you’d be happier

do what you enjoy the most, whether that is trying to get close to your friend again or letting her move on, and instead spend time with people that you don’t have to make an effort to be close too

you’ll make the right decision xxxxxx

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you-could-do-better: me and my best friend have drifted alot,just because she's been to parties with this different group of people and she's got really close to all of them. these parties are like nearlly every weekend and we're drifting further and further;i've tried to talk to her but i don't think she gets it :/ i feel lost without her and i bet she doesn't even think about me. we hardly speak in school anymore and she only replies to my inboxes/texts occasionally. what can i do?

i don’t think there’s a lot you can do if you’ve already tried speaking to her :(

do you ever go through phases where you almost dont like some of your friends for a couple of weeks, then you’re back to normal again?

It could be that she’s grown out of you, or if her new group of friends are popular, that may be a reason she spends lots of time with them

think of how many different friends you’ve had since primary school- the friends you have now will definitely change, and losing your best friend might be one of those changes that you cant do anything about

hopefully, she’ll come back to you eventually, but if not, just concentrate on the friends you do have, you best friend is a loss, but sooner or later, you’ll find someone you’re just as close to

good luck xx

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Anonymous: so i have this friend, and recently at this party we nearly got off, but then we didnt, and last night he sent me texts saying they would have if someone hadnt stopped them, and that they wished they had, i tried mentioning it today to my friend but he completly ignored the subject... now i dont know what to do, as i like him, and wouldnt mind hooking up with him, but i dont want to get a reputation and i dont know if its what he wants as he can be very on and off, any advice please? :)

im a little confused with all the theys, hims and friends:L

but even though you like him, you’re saying he doesnt want to discuss it and he’s ignoring you- maybe since the party, he’s thought about what had happened and is having second thoughts. If he doesnt want to talk about it, then you should probably leave it i think

sorry, this isn’t a very good answer :( xx